Monday, August 14, 2006
This is a photo of the HMS Belfast, a second world war battleship which is now moored on the River Thames just over from The Tower of London. My granda was a joiner who worked in Belfast docks and he worked on this boat! I was looking at it a few weeks ago when we were in London and it got me to thinking about family, not immediate family but aunts, uncles, cousins etc..
I have 5 sets of aunts and uncles on my mums side and 4 on my dads side I havn't seen any of them since 1987, 19 years! I have loads of cousins (approx 20) and only actually met one since then. I think we all lost touch when we moved to England and then my mum died and my dad remarried very quickly which may have annoyed them! Anyway from were I was sitting they kind of abandoned us, I talked to my elder brother last year about getting in touch with some of them and he said why should we bother they didn't ever get in touch with us.
Recently I have been feeling like I should reach out to them but living out here makes it hard.
I guess I don't want my own kids to drift from their family like I have from mine.
I am also a crap uncle myself and should work harder at being in touch with my own nephews and neices, but it's never been modelled for me.
It's hardly like long lost parents or anything like that, but do you feel wider family is important?
Should I try to re-connect?