I once heard a story of a lady who placed a pair of mens jeans at the end of her bed and prayed that God would give her a man to fill them.
So my suggestion is for you guys is that you buy some ladies underwear and hang them at the end of your bed and ask God to give you a woman to fill them. Faith is being sure of what we hope for .....
Ok I have talked to a few women in my time, I 'm even married to one.
Men if your praying for a woman here's a few tips, ladies if I am getting this wrong forgive me because I am a man.
In all honesty most of my man post applies to women with some obvious exceptions.
A few extras would be:
Lets start with a few externals:
Make up is good although don't overdo it the worst thing that can happen is that you wear to much make up get married then scrape it all off and shock your new partner.
Tanning is good, but pale skin is also beautiful, what is worse is fake tan, people can spot it a mile off no one wants an orange woman, unless you live in a particularly bigoted part of East Belfast. Which leads me to a small aside, there are a lot of women with fake tans in Ireland!
Don't obsess about your wedding day, it's about the rest of your life not the day. It amazes me that a couple about to embark on the journey of spending the rest of their lives together can spend their engagement obsessing about invites, cakes and photographers. Simplicity can be beautiful.
Don't be a daddies girl, you give your man the spectre of your father hanging over the relationship and he will never quite measure up. Don't go looking for a dad to give you cuddles and tell you everything is going to be ok. Get that from God not some unsuspecting 20 something male!
I would like to add some more tips but I think I need some help! Leave a comment and i'll add it if it's helpful.
I feel that I am wading around in the shallows here, there is a whole load of stuff that society and culture has put on to women that disturbs me. The church hasn't been overly helpful over the years either but I would refuse to let the church take all the blame. Media and advertising have also done a lot of damage. So I don't want to go into some feminist discourse.
Just think it would be helpful to know what makes a healthy well balanced woman?
I wil post suggestions below
1. I heard a great talk from Mike Pilavachi last week. He said don't make false idols. Don't make an idol from having to have a partner and waste your life away waiting to get married to be happy. Use your life now. Also if you are single, don't make privacy an idol. The bible doesn't talk about privacy once, it says a lot about being hospitable though. (great maybe I should do a post on singleness?)